Tim Worstall

One Night Stands

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Researchers investigating female attitudes to sex and their sexuality
were surprised to find that most women have rather more traditional,
conservative views on one-night stands than they expected.
…

Dr Sharron Hinchcliffe, a psychologist from the
University of Sheffield, presented her findings at the annual
conference of the British Psychological Society in Cardiff yesterday.

Dr
Hinchcliffe said: "Our results did not fit in with the image we have of
today’s independent woman who can go out and get sexual fulfilment
without the ties of a relationship.
…

"They referred to the women as emulating male behaviour. It was certainly the view that it was not the way women should behave.

"Some
of the respondents said these things even though they admitted they had
had one-night stands themselves. I was surprised at how judgmental they
were.

"It makes me question whether women have
really gained all the sexual freedom they are supposed to have gained
since the Sixties."

Men and women have different attitudes towards sex. Well, fancy that.

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6 responses

  1. Wolfie Avatar
    Wolfie

    What women do and what women say they do is a very different matter. Ask any married man.

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  2. EU Serf Avatar
    EU Serf

    If women really did behave like men, no-one would watch Sex & The City.

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  3. The Remittance Man Avatar
    The Remittance Man

    Personally I think Dr Hinchcliffe’s statements betray how out of touch “classic feminism” is from the real world. I found two examples, one explicit and one implied.
    Firstly she says: “It makes me question whether women have really gained all the sexual freedom they are supposed to have gained since the Sixties.” In other words if women had true sexual freedom they’d screw around more. I don’t think she even considered the fact that women might not be “psychologically wired” to screw around, like “typical males”.
    Which leads me to the second of her rather dubious assumptions. That men all screw around at every opportunity. Now it may be true that men in general are more sexually profligate, but to assume that the entire sex acts like a drunken MP with the Treasury chequebook is hardly credible scientific analysis.
    I think, if Dr Hinchcliffe actually got out of her feminist, academic bubble and looked at the real world around her she’d be amazed to find that a lot of people, of both sexes, are a lot more conservative (note the lower case) than she believes or desires. Then again, she’s hardly likely to do that; it would shatter all her preconcieved notions about people.
    RM

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  4. johnny bonk Avatar
    johnny bonk

    Most blokes would have shagged hundreds of women if they’d had the chance.

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  5. Rebecca Avatar
    Rebecca

    one night stands hurt and i hate them. why do guys think that we want that? I had a guy that flirted and talked to me for several monthes. we went out a couple of times and he “pretended” that he liked me. when we had sex I never heard from him again. its not even so much the sex its that he pretended he was my friend. now I hate him. men need to think about that and be honest with a woman and give her a choice of whether she wants to participate in a one night stand or not. had I known I would have walked away.

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  6. Jen Avatar
    Jen

    I’m new to the ‘one night stand’ thing. I was in two long relationships that total 6 years. After my last relationship went down, I met this guy through a friend of mine. We talked on the phone for a week. Now mind you, I’ve only been intament with my two ex’s so I’m still kinda ‘new’ to the whole exploring sex thing. I met him the following week at a local bar and from there we went back to his house. We were hanging out for a little while watching a movie and talking. He seemed like a REALLY good and nice guy. I knew he wasn’t looking for a relationship nor was I. I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to have sex with him because for one, I didn’t even really know him and for two I was scared out of my mind. Well that night he was really nice to me and very slow and gentle and we winded up having sex. He doesn’t answere my calls now, my emails and when he does pick up he tells me he’ll call me back. I mean..I’m really hurt. I didn’t expect anything from him but a friendship. NOTHING more. I hate him very much now and I’m honestly discusted with myself!

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